One of the comments I get the MOST from women is “I don’t want to get big” in terms of weight training. I have to explain this – it would take months and months and months for a woman who does not weight train at all or is starting to get into fitness to get “big”. Although many women look at that with distaste or something they do not want any part of, realistically, it is not going to be possible! The women that you see who are big, large, bigger than you want to be…it takes a lot of time and work.
The benefits of weight training for ANY woman are so great, I can’t believe there are any out there that still aren’t doing it! It speeds up your metabolism, it burns fat faster, and it changes the entire look of your body (in a great way). You can get toned, lean, and get rid of those “moving” areas – for example, the tricep area that so many women want to firm up or get rid of. The butt is another one – toning and firming…who wouldn’t want that??! The overall aesthetic of your body changes for the good when you incorporate weight training in with your cardio and diet!
How many days a week you do weight training, how you weight train (circuit as opposed to a body part a day) is totally up to the individual, the time you have and want to put in and if you are also training with a personal trainer.
Everybody’s workouts will not be the same, that is another huge realization that women have to come to. What may work for me will definitely NOT work for everybody or even most. What works for your own individual body is geared to your own individual body so when another woman says give me what you do , I want to look like you…that won’t work. Granted, it may work for a small few but normally it will not. Take the time to evaluate your own self,what your goals are, what you are working with and make a complete exercise program for yourself to reach those goals! If you feel this is not something you can figure out alone, that’s what a personal trainer is for and they should be able to do this for you no problem!
The next time the phrase “I don’t want to get big” enters your mind, push it out and replace it with “Go hard or go home”! 
Good luck ladies with the weights!!!
